Frustrations

I am having a dilemma at work. Not that this is life altering stuff I am dealing with here it is just frustrating. There are a few things I am let in on the loop about and a lot I am left out of. The real problem is that Special K, the woman I work with, has a husband that is a college band director and arranges music, very well I might add, but in the past few years he has been reusing old material and giving us stock charts. Which is fine to a point. He seems to have complete control over the show for which we will be spending 3 and a half months with almost exclusively which is another issue in and of itself. The music he has picked doesn't flow well together and quite frankly is boring. I would be feeling different if my input was more than Special K asking "What do you think of these three songs" Me replying "I don't think they fit well together let me think of a few things and we can talk." The next thing I know without ever talking to me again we are doing the three she/He chose and really no regard to me. I just find this very frustrating. I don't know how to approach this without sounding like I am attacking or saying that her husband runs the decisions. Which he does. Grrrrr. They get so one track minded at times and that really bothers me. Let me in on a few things or don't even pretend to want my opinion. It's not like I am completely inept at doing these things. I have designed several shows and have done a good job. It's not like I don't know what I am talking about. Yes I have a lot to learn but I would like my thoughts and opinions at least considered.
But what do I know.